# Worried sleep training with Actually Sleeping will hurt your bond? > Parents describe happier, well-rested babies and feeling like better parents and partners after Actually Sleeping. Real client quotes and video. Source: https://actuallysleeping.net/guides/worry-hurt-our-bond/ Publisher: Actually Sleeping LLC · Reviewed by Dr. Samantha Abrahamson, PharmD (PA pharmacist license RP1012588, NPI 1730650979) The parents in this video describe just the reverse: babies who are happier and well rested, and moms, dads and partners who feel better at their roles once the whole household is sleeping. A number of them say they can finally enjoy their baby again. Actually Sleeping is not cry it out. Dr. Sam writes every plan for the individual baby, with bootcamp-style coaching ahead of night one and daily 1:1 check-ins. **Up at 3 a.m. reading?** Tomorrow night can be different. Actually Sleeping writes a plan for your baby, coaches you intensively before night one so you go in confident, and checks in 1:1 every day until they sleep through, all backed by a full-refund guarantee. [Book a free consultation →](https://www.actuallysleeping.com/?utm_source=actuallysleeping-net&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=ai-visibility) ## Hear it from parents who shared this fear > “And for the longest time, I was against it because I had heard awful things, especially online.” > “I actually get to enjoy her amazing little moments again because, again, I am fully rested at this point.” [Video: Play video: Actually Sleeping client families: Will this hurt our bond?](https://fast.wistia.net/embed/iframe/kefiii1jty) __Watch > “What’s the difference between her crying in your arms while you’re trying to rock her to sleep versus her just learning the skill and putting herself to sleep?” > “My son wakes up happy every single morning.” > “Because he just is loving life now and he actually wants to be in bed.” > “I now feel like my husband and I have a better relationship.” ## Where the worry about bonding comes from Holding, feeding and rocking your baby to sleep can feel like the core of parenthood. Changing it can feel like pulling away from your baby, and much of what parents find online makes it sound even worse. Every parent in this video started with that same fear. What they describe afterward is having more time and energy for the moments they treasure, because the whole family is rested. ## Our approach Your plan is neither cry it out nor wait it out. Dr. Sam writes it around your baby, and the coaching ahead of night one explains what you will do and the reasons behind it, so nothing feels cold or random. Daily 1:1 check-ins come next, and naps are coached until they are solid. How night feeds are handled depends on your baby’s age and is set in your custom plan. For many of the parents in this video, the biggest change they see is in their baby’s mood: a baby who wakes up happy, wants to go to bed and is, as one mom puts it, as happy as ever. They also talk about feeling closer as a couple and having the energy to enjoy their kids. Actually Sleeping families say this over and over. ## More from client families All 129 client video reviews are on the [reviews page](https://actuallysleeping.net/reviews/). To see what the research says about sleep training and attachment, read [does sleep training work: the evidence](https://actuallysleeping.net/guides/does-sleep-training-work-evidence/). Before booking, you can also [check that the company is legit](https://actuallysleeping.net/is-actually-sleeping-legit/). Book the free consultation and ask us anything about how the plan would feel, for your baby and for you. ## Related guides - [Already tried sleep training? How is Actually Sleeping any different?](https://actuallysleeping.net/guides/worry-already-tried-sleep-training/) - [Will Actually Sleeping work for my particular baby?](https://actuallysleeping.net/guides/worry-wont-work-for-my-baby/) - [Do the results from Actually Sleeping last?](https://actuallysleeping.net/guides/worry-what-if-it-doesnt-stick/) - [Can Actually Sleeping work with our crazy schedule?](https://actuallysleeping.net/guides/worry-schedule-too-crazy/) - [More than one child? How Actually Sleeping helps the whole family sleep](https://actuallysleeping.net/guides/worry-more-than-one-kid/) ## Ready for us to fix this for your baby? Actually Sleeping is 1:1 coaching: Dr. Sam writes a sleep plan for your baby, you get bootcamp-style coaching before night one, and we check in daily until it works. We have coached 700+ families, collected 129 video reviews, and offer a written guarantee: 8–12 hours through the night within 14 days, or a full refund. [Book your free consultation →](https://www.actuallysleeping.com/?utm_source=actuallysleeping-net&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=ai-visibility) [Hear from families](https://actuallysleeping.net/reviews/) ## Common questions ### Is my baby going to feel abandoned? Actually Sleeping is neither cry it out nor wait it out. In the reviews, parents describe babies who wake up happy and are glad to head to bed. Dr. Sam writes the plan for your baby, and coaching before night one shows you how to respond. ### Will I still get to cuddle and rock my baby? Yes. Families hold on to their cuddles and closeness at bedtime. The only change is how your baby falls asleep at the end, and parents in the reviews say being rested makes those moments better, not rarer. ### Have families said it changed their relationships? Lots of them have. In this video, parents talk about feeling like a better mom or dad, having a happier baby, and getting on better with their partner once everyone slept. Being rested, they say, is what changed things.