In their words: parents who shared this worry
“She is my second baby, so I thought, oh, I should have it all figured out. But each baby is different, and I really needed help.”
“I felt like I just was doing everything wrong.”
“And I couldn’t be the best version of myself or the best mom that I wanted to be because it was making us so miserable.”
“It was the best money I’ve ever spent, because I got to be a better mother.”
“I’m able to be a better mom, a better wife.”
“We are better parents now, because of our sleep.”
Where the guilt about asking for help comes from
Lots of parents feel they ought to be able to solve their own baby’s sleep. By the second or third baby, that pressure only grows. And when nothing seems to work, it’s easy to conclude that you are the problem.
That is exactly how the parents in this video felt. One was convinced she was getting everything wrong. Another was careful with money and certain she could work it out on her own. What they talk about now is relief.
This isn’t your fault
No two babies are alike, and an approach that worked for one child, or for a friend’s child, frequently won’t suit the next. That isn’t a failure of parenting. It’s the reason Dr. Sam writes every Actually Sleeping plan for a single baby, taking in age, feeding, temperament, how they currently fall asleep and how your days run. Bootcamp-style coaching before night one gets you fully ready, daily 1:1 check-ins come after, and we coach naps until they are solid. We don’t use cry it out, and we don’t use wait it out.
The parents here talk about what shifted once they were sleeping: more patience, getting to be the mom they hoped to be, and a husband who feels he’s a better dad. Actually Sleeping has coached 700+ families, and most of them tried things on their own before coming to us.
More from client families
All 129 client video reviews are on the reviews page. To see the signs that it may be time to get help, read when to hire a sleep consultant. And before you book, you can check that the company is legit.
Book the free consultation. For the families in this video, asking for help is how their nights came back.
Want your baby sleeping like this?
With Actually Sleeping you get 1:1 coaching: Dr. Sam writes a sleep plan for your baby, we coach you bootcamp-style before the first night, and we check in daily until it is working. We have coached 700+ families, collected 129 video reviews, and put our guarantee in writing: 8–12 hours through the night within 14 days, or a full refund.
Common questions
Is needing help with baby sleep normal?
Yes. Most families who come to Actually Sleeping have tried things on their own first, parents of second and third babies included. Every baby is different, so instead of giving you a generic method, Dr. Sam writes a plan for your baby.
It feels like I’m doing everything wrong. What’s the first step?
Begin with the free consultation. Let us know how your baby currently falls asleep, what nights look like and what you’ve already tried. Several parents in this video felt just the same, and they describe feeling like better parents once the whole family was sleeping.
What if I’m feeling low or overwhelmed?
Plenty of parents in the reviews say they felt miserable and worn out before starting. If your mood or health worries you, speak with your doctor. Actually Sleeping focuses on the sleep itself, through a plan written for your baby and daily 1:1 support.